Here is a list of general conclusions I have made which I now realize have been wrong.
|Events||Wrong Conclusions||Honest Conclusions|
Someone says, |
I want the old Matt back.
They don't love me.
They don't care about me or understand me, and don't want to.
|They have observed a negative change in my behavior.|
|Something awful happened and no one was there to help.||
No one cares enough to help me when I need it. All my friends have abandoned me.
|I am mourning a loss. My feelings tell me to blame others. Some events I have to go through I could never predict nor control. When life changes dramatically I know I will mourn the loss.|
They have no idea what I am going through.
Their good intentions are destroying me.
They have betrayed me.
|The simplest explanation is the most likely: This is a symptom of depression. It would be a well coordinated attack if everyone turned on me. The coordination is real, but it is in regard to my apparent symptoms which are negatively impacting both their actions and my view. If I only worry about this well coordinated behavior of good people, I would ignore the possibility that something inside is causing this feeling and situational trap.|
I feel so angry and sad.
I can feel it pulsing through my body.
Sometimes I can even ||
Feelings are logical by nature.
I feel angry or sad only for a very good reason.
I am more angry so this is an extremely good reason.
I don't need to control these feelings because they are appropriate.
Feelings are chemical by nature.
There are chemicals pulsing through me which |
|After feeling angry and sad, sometimes I feel calmer after some time or the next morning.||
I got over it.
|This is evidence of the chemistry in my body recovering. This proves that my sadness and anger are chemical in nature, like a drug . I don't want the chemicals in my body so I will increase my nutrition. Also, I will take vitamins to counteract these feelings.|
- My body is making chemicals which make me feel the way I do, but I will gain control.
- Indulging in negative feelings and thoughts is no different than indulging in drugs.
- I will not be addicted to bad feelings, because there is a better way.
I am attaching a negative value to so many things,
thatI can't feel happy.
When I am calm, I will analyze why something makes me feel so bad.
I will realize feeling bad is only a chemical taking control.
If it is bad, I will realize that I will hurt my freedom and my body by continuing to feel
I will be in control
not the chemicals in my body. When I am too angry or sad I will realize that I cannot be logical . I will distract my emotions by doing something else until I can think about it without invoking bad feelings. I will not think aboutthings that make me feel bad, because I will be destroyed if I do, and no good will come of it. If I must think about it I will learn not to feel bad about that event before I try to think through it.